Feminine sexuality is deeply entwined with and embedded in societal gender dynamics, structures of power, changes in culture, and patriarchy.

One of the feminine’s tasks to move towards her awakened and divine state is to grapple with how her sexuality has been regulated and how her beliefs about herself have been conditioned into her current consciousness in order to disentangle herself, forge her own beliefs, free herself from beliefs that are designed to keep her small, and to unlock her feminine power and feminine radiance.

Patriarchal structures are required to keep women from their power in order for masculine dominance keep its own power and control.

When a woman forgets her power, she is more easily controlled. In our society today, it often feels like we are going backwards - women are losing legal, political, spiritual access to the rights they once had. The truth is not what is being told to us - that society is collapsing because women have autonomy, sovereignty, and personal choice. Society isn’t collapsing because women are rising. The old earth is crumbling because we are ready for a new earth - new beliefs, healing old wounds, and awakening to egalitarian principles. Society is simply transforming.

The United States is currently going through a push to renew the “traditional values” gender roles from the golden-era past, patriarchal mindsets and thinking, and pointing to feminine autonomy and independence as the reason for unhappy men and a changing social order.

This isn’t random - our society is changing. With change comes anger, rage, and pushback in the wake of an old system becoming extinct before a new way of being becomes the norm.

The empowerment of women (the process of gaining independence, autonomy, knowledge, skills, and resources to live a life of her own choosing) is the change that men (and women) will often point to when difficult change confronts them.

Why Do People Struggle with Change?

Women’s liberation and autonomy often becomes the scapegoat - yet it is also the predictable psychosocial and sociological pattern of human beings to blame someone else, and to blame the people, in this case women, that are creating and expecting the change.

Most people resist change and struggle any time they feel their way of life is threatened or they have to face the shadow aspects of their own selves. Deep, personal transformation makes them have to examine themselves, their thoughts, their beliefs, and challenge what they have been told, how they have been conditioned, and what indoctrination has occurred up to that point in their lives.

People struggle to change because of

Fear
Comfort
Identity attachment

This makes it difficult for most people to embrace their shadow self, dismantle old ways of being, confronting uncomfortable truths about themselves that they have built an identity around, break free from patterns that are engrained into their self-image and connected to their self-preservation. Facing the shadow also means stepping into the unknown, which is terrifying, especially if someone has never done it before. It threatens the ego, and it also dysregulates the nervous system initially.

There are four key factors at play when dealing with a society desperately struggling to go backwards.

Feminine Sexual Liberation is a Threat to Control
A woman who is in full control of her sexuality is a woman who is hard to control.
In patriarchal society, if a woman has gained full control of her sexuality, it is because she has had to liberate herself. She has had to do her deep inner work and has untangled societies conditioning, religious indoctrination, societal stigma, her own childhood wounds and past relationship trauma, and has come out on the other side of it as a woman who embraces both her light and dark feminine energies. She has become a whole feminine being.
Feminine sexual liberation has been policed and controlled since the inception of the world because feminine sexuality is feminine liberation, and feminine liberation mean loss of control for male-dominated power structures.
Women who have full bodily autonomy, have full control of their pleasure, and their choices are women who do not rely on men for approval and validation. This dismantles masculine domination, masculine hierarchy, and masculine dominance.
Masculine Domination Comes from a Fear of Losing Control
Many men feel their dominance diminish as women gain more equality.
Our society equates masculinity with “provide, preside, protect” - otherwise known as leadership, dominance, and control. This has been the “traditional masculinity role” many men have inherited. Anything different challenges their self-concept and self-identity. When a man’s identity is forged in black and white, good and bad, correct and incorrect, godly and ungodly thinking, self-sufficient and autonomous women threaten what they know and believe about themselves and the way things are “supposed to be."
Some men take it upon themselves to grow, change, and address their own unconscious wounds and patterning.
Many men choose to react from a place of insecurity and romanticize the past and how women “used to be.” Many men verbally and emotionally diminishing feminine accomplishments and ambition to try to humble them.
This signifies men who are attached to their insecurities and have tied their sense of masculine worth to their dominance over women.
Patriarchy Trying to Take a “Last Stand” Against Change Through Extinction Burst
When a system that is losing control and significance fights back harder right before a collapse, it is called and extinction burst.
Right now, in the United States, patriarchal control and capitalist American exceptionalism is dying and we are experiencing an extinction burst.
As societal norms change, masculine dominated society shouts of going back to a fictional past where things were “better.” Their reaction to the feminine is to reverse laws that provided equal rights back to laws restricting female autonomy, blaming feminine empowerment movements for masculine struggles and loneliness, and indoctrinating men and young men online towards red pill ideology which promotes unhealthy masculinity, misogyny, patriarchal power and control, and anti-feminine autonomy.
Misogyny and the Madonna-Whore Complex
The Madonna-Whore Complex is the idea that women can only embody the Madonna (the pure, nurturing, submissive good girl) or the Whore (the sensual, sexual, independent and autonomous woman).
The Madonna is seen as “acceptable” and the Whore as not deserving respect. The Madonna as good, the Whore as bad. A woman is not seen as a multidimensional being, but rather as one part of her true duality and her true nature.
When a man operates from healthy masculinity, he sees a woman as both and neither the Madonna or the Whore - he sees her as a multifaceted, complex, beautiful blend of all of her divine feminine essence. He sees her as the whole woman she is, rather than only one small piece that society deems as good or acceptable.
The goal of the Madonna-Whore Complex is to only see a woman as one part of herself. This makes it easier for masculine dominated society to control men, and for men in their relationships with women to see women as incapable of choosing their own path, being in service to men, and not being worthy of self-sovereignty.

Society is trying to go backwards because it fears a future that looks different and unknown to the one it currently operates in. The pushback we as women are experiencing tells us that change is happening, but growth is painful for most people.

As women, we must keep doing our inner work. We must keep dismantling patriarchy. We must continue decentering men. We must get to know our feminine sexuality, sensuality, and pleasure. We must forge our own beliefs, challenge corrupt power, free ourselves from beliefs that are designed to keep us small and unlock our feminine power and feminine radiance by softening into our multifaceted essence - our light/soft feminine energy and our dark feminine energy.