Defensiveness in Conflict: Release Your Need for Unhealthy Self-Protection and Improve the Quality of Your Intimate Relationships

In this episode, we’re exploring defensiveness in conflict—why it shows up, how it protects us in unhealthy ways, and how it actually damages the intimacy we long for. Defensiveness can look like shutting down, blaming, or constantly explaining ourselves, but underneath it is usually fear of being judged, hurt, or rejected. When we begin to notice these patterns and release the need for constant self-protection, we create space for openness, healthier communication, and deeper connection in our intimate relationships.


I’m Allison — writer, teacher, guide, podcast host, and founder of Create Love Freedom.

This is not just an online space. It is a living temple for women who are ready to reclaim their feminine essence, heal their wounds, and return to their radiance and power.

If you are a woman who longs to:
— Heal past wounds and trauma
— Deepen into your feminine being and sovereignty
— Slow down and come home to your authentic self
— Release the weight of conditioning that is not yours
— Create relationships rooted in intimacy and truth
— Become the sovereign woman you were always meant to be

…then, beloved, you are in the right place.

Begin your passage here.


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